Proverbs Chapters 16-17 John Karmelich
1.
The
main topic of proverbs is still "Wisdom". My "subtopic for this lesson is "Things that are pleasing to
God".
a)
Since
God's name is mentioned prominently in this lesson (via the title "The
LORD"). I thought it would be good to
discuss a little what is specifically pleasing to God!
b)
For
example, in the first few proverbs, it means how God can overrule our plans and
take control of our tongue!
c)
The
proverbs also teach how God even takes control of the tongue of the wicked
ultimately for His own purposes. Others can
learn from the mistakes of the unsaved.
d)
When
a person's ways are pleasing to God, He even makes our enemies at peace with
us.
e)
This
lesson also gets into proverbs about giving good instruction and making Godly
wisdom a priority in our lives.
2.
In
this lesson, we're also going to have a lot of proverbs about being honest with
others. There are both positive and
negative examples in these proverbs about dealing with others.
3.
Other
proverbs deal with our relationships with leaders, including kings and judges.
a)
If
a king is dealing with wrath, it is better to try to appease it than face it.
b)
Some
of the proverbs in Chapter 17 deal with the importance of honesty in court. The point is, as much as possible to punish the guilty and let the
innocent go free. This concept of fairness in
court should be irrelevant as to the issue of who is and is not saved.
c)
With
that said, I'm ending my introduction here as we have a lot of ground to cover!
4.
Verse
1: To
man belong the plans of the heart, but from the LORD comes the reply of the
tongue.
a)
The point of this
proverb is that God will often put thoughts on our tongues for us to speak.
We don't always realize what we say comes
from God. This
proverb is teaching that God gets involved with what we say, whether we realize
it or not.
b)
We as humans, often make
plans in our hearts. God
has the ability to over-rule those plans with the goal of getting His will
accomplished.
c)
Notice God's control of
the human tongue is not limited to believers. God sometimes controls the mouths of nonbelievers,
again to get His will done.
d)
This verse is not saying
God controls our tongue every time we speak. It means God is in control of our lives, and when God
wants to interview, He does.
e)
Let me stop for a second
and define "LORD" quickly. When that word is in all capitals, it is based on a
Hebrew acronym for the most holy name of God, which is "Jehovah".
Jehovah is not the only title used for
God, but it is considered the most holy title.
i)
It is a reminder of just
who is getting involved in our lives!
5.
Verse 2:
All a man's ways seem innocent to him,
but motives are weighed by the LORD.
a)
Most of us go through
life thinking what we are doing at any one moment is right.
This proverb is reminding us that God
watches and weighs our motivations. God watches our motivations to do things.
In other words, we are not only judged
for what we do in life, but our motivations as well.
b)
Which leads to verse 3:
6.
Verse 3:
Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and
your plans will succeed.
a)
Does this mean if we
plan to do something sinful and "commit it to God" it will succeed.
No, this only applies to things that are
pleasing to God in the first place.
b)
Remember
God's idea of success is often different from ours. This verse does not mean every business venture we undertake, will be
successful on our timing! It means if we try to live a
life pleasing to God, He turns around and blesses our plans. The idea is those plans somehow glorify Him. We may not be as successful as we want on day 1, but God is in charge, He
is watching out for us and guiding is. That's the
idea behind this proverb.
7.
Verse
4: The
LORD works out everything for his own ends-- even the wicked for a day of
disaster.
a)
The goal of life is to
get involved with Gods game plan for the world and not our own.
Even those that are being condemned for
ignoring God all of their lives are somehow being controlled by God whether
they realize it or not. The
point is God works within the affairs of mankind to accomplish His will.
At any given moment, we can choose to be
doing things God's way or rebel against God with our own plans.
i)
No matter what we
choose, God's will, will eventually prevail. The only question is how much we choose to be involved
in God's plans for the world.
8.
Verse
5: The
LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go
unpunished.
a)
The point is those that
spend their lives turning from God in order to pursue their own interest will
not go unpunished.
b)
Know
that the saved are forgiven, but we the saved are still judged based on how we
lived our lives. For those that never want to
humble themselves before God, they will suffer eternal condemnation for that
action.
c)
Let
me focus on the "saved" as we read this verse: One can read this verse as about salvation. It also applies to the "here and now" as well. We can be proud in our heart at any given moment toward God or someone
around us. Notice how God never lets us get
away with anything for very long. That too is
a point of this proverb.
i)
For
example, if we don't repent, God often works on us to forgive and change. Yes this verse is dealing with those being sent to hell, but there is
also a message to the saved reading it as well. The message is about watching our heart, as God is constantly watching
it.
ii)
Therefore,
it is better to repent now, then face God's judgment later!
9.
Verse
6: Through
love and faithfulness sin is atoned for; through the fear of the LORD a man
avoids evil.
a)
Both halves of this
proverb speak to the "saved person".
b)
In the first half,
Proverbs is talking about how to properly deal with sin.
When we forgive those we hurt (both God
and fellow people), we are dealing with sin. Being faithful to God is how we atone for sin.
When we do mess up, we confess it and
move on.
c)
The second half of the
proverb is about taking our relationship with God one step further:
It is about avoiding evil in the first
place: Our
motivation to avoid evil is about wanting to avoid the wrath of God!
Our desire to please God should be a
motivation to keep us away from evil things in the first place!
10.
Verse 7:
When a man's ways are pleasing to the
LORD, he makes even his enemies live at peace with him.
a)
Notice that when we are
pleasing to God, we still have enemies in this world.
God never promises that the world will
love us for loving Him. What
God does promise is that if our lifestyle is pleasing to God, He in turn will
make our enemies live at peace with us.
b)
So what does that mean
on a practical basis? Sometimes
it will cause our enemies to leave us alone for the time being.
Notice our fates with our enemies is in
God's control and not ours if we are just willing to trust God in that aspect.
i)
The secret is to focus
on pleasing God and let Him worry about our enemies.
ii)
Does the term our
enemies refer to people, or demonic forces. The answer is both. Since we don't know what forces are behind those
people we consider our enemies, our job is to pleasing God and let Him worry
about that situation.
c)
During the moments we
are being attacked by our enemies, the point is to focus on God and ask Him
what He wants us to do at that given moment. God may ask us to face them or run away at any given
moment. The
point is it is up to God and not us!
11.
Verse 8:
Better a little with righteousness than
much gain with injustice.
a)
This verse is related to
the previous ones and it is best to read it in that context:
The direct point of this proverb is that
is better to only have a few material possessions in life and have
"righteousness", (that is have a heart right toward God) then to have
a lot of possessions, but there is injustice involved.
b)
The point is we should
focus on being right with God first and then material possessions second.
What does that mean practically?
It means we consider how God would react
to any and all aspects to our lives. It also means we should take time out of each day for
God. This verse does not
mean we have to live a life of poverty. It simple means we consider God in all that we do.
12.
Verse 9:
In his heart a man plans his course, but
the LORD determines his steps.
a)
Earlier, we had a proverb
of how God "controls" our tongues even after we make plans.
b)
Here is a similar
proverb that says in effect, people make plans in our hearts, but God
determines our course of actions whether we realize it or not.
i)
What does that mean?
It means God interferes in the affairs of
man whether we like it or not. Might as well accept it and live our lives for Him.
ii)
It means God directs our
lives, whether we realize it or not. You and I
may plan something, but God has the power and the will to overrule those planes.
c)
Does
this mean we shouldn't plan things? Of course
not. We just have to accept the idea that God can overrule
our plans at anytime.
13.
Verse
10: The
lips of a king speak as an oracle, and his mouth should not betray justice.
a)
This is the first of
many proverbs that deal with those in command.
b)
The point of this
proverb is that a king can command anything he desires, but that king should
not betray justice in his life as a king.
c)
Just
because we don't live in a kingdom, does not mean this proverb no longer applies. It can apply to anyone in power including judges. The essential idea is one should be fair in dealings when it comes to
situations that require justice.
14.
Verse
11: Honest
scales and balances are from the LORD; all the weights in the bag are of his making.
a)
Speaking of being fair
and honest, here is a proverb about having honest scales.
b)
The idea is one who is
fair and just also uses honest scales in their deals with others.
i)
Since honest scales come
from God, we should treat them well. ☺
15.
Verse 12:
Kings detest wrongdoing, for a throne is
established through righteousness.
a)
The bible condones human
government. The
idea is that a throne, or any place of leadership should be a place of honest
dealings where righteousness is done.
b)
For example, if someone
goes to court or to the government to solve an issue, that person should expect
the people in power to act fairly and not show any special favoritism.
c)
The other concept is
that those who are in power should rule fairly over the people.
16.
Verse 13:
Kings take pleasure in honest lips; they
value a man who speaks the truth.
a)
If one is before a
person of power, one should speak honestly as opposed to being a yes man or
yes-women. The
idea is those in power respect honesty and they respect those that speak the
truth.
17.
Verse 14:
A king's wrath is a messenger of death,
but a wise man will appease it.
a)
The
essential idea is that a king is in charge, and if the king is angry about
something, people can die over the issue. A wise man
will try to calm down the king so that king can make fair and right decisions
and not be controlled by his anger.
b)
This
verse is written for the person facing the king and his wrath!
c)
OK,
most of us don't live in a kingdom. Still, there
are judges and political leaders that occasionally require to be calmed so they
don't punish the innocent, or over-punish the guilty in any given situation.
18.
Verse
15: When
a king's face brightens, it means life; his favor is like a rain cloud in
spring.
a)
The idea of rain in the
spring is a positive thing. It means the crops get needed rain.
b)
The idea of this proverb
is that when a king goes from angry to happy, it means good things for those
who are in the king's presents.
c)
This verse marks the end
of the proverbs about being around kings.
19.
Verse 16:
How much better to get wisdom than gold,
to choose understanding rather than silver!
a)
Here's
a proverb that we have already read. The
essential idea is that getting biblical wisdom is more important than chasing
after silver or gold.
b)
So
why have this proverb stated here at this point? It is a bridge of the last and next group of proverbs. We just had a bunch of proverbs about what to say when we are in the
presence of a king or leader. At such times, one can focus on
the leader and not God.
i)
This
proverb is reminding us about what is the primary issue of life at all times!
ii)
This
proverb is not against making money, but about getting our priorities right!
20.
Verse
17: The
highway of the upright avoids evil; he who guards his way guards his life.
a)
This proverb ties well with
the previous one. Part
of the concept of constantly seeking God's guidance is about avoiding what is
evil. A person who is
concerned with pleasing God in all they do is also going to do their best to
avoid evil people.
b)
The second part says in
effect such a good person will "guard him or her self" from that type
of evil person and bad behavior. In other words, we are to watch what we say and who we
associate with in life!
c)
Part of pleasing God is
spending as much time as possible with others who think likewise.
21.
Verse
18: Pride
goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
a)
What usually brings us
down is our pride. The
point is having a lot of pride is usually the cause of one's downfall in life.
The idea of a "haughty spirit"
is very similar.
b)
The essential idea is to
watch our behavior and see if it is, or is not pleasing to God.
A sign that we are going in the wrong
direction is when we refuse to humble ourselves. In other words, our pride is often the cause of our
downfall in a situation.
22.
Verse 19:
Better to be lowly in spirit and among
the oppressed than to share plunder with the proud.
a)
This verse is not
claiming that making money is bad. The point is it is better to be low in spirit among
the oppressed than to share in ill gotten wealth among the proud.
b)
The essential idea is to
not get involved in financial behavior that is displeasing to God.
This includes being involved in some plan
to steal from others. The
point is it is better to be poor than to be rich by some illegal gain.
23.
Verse 20:
Whoever gives heed to instruction
prospers, and blessed is he who trusts in the LORD.
a)
Here's a proverb where
both halves area a good thing!
b)
A "good thing"
is to give heed to biblical based instruction. Think about that line in comparison to the last
proverb: A
person who heeds good instruction is not likely to get involved with plans to
steal someone's wealth.
c)
The point of this
proverb in context is that a wise person will listens to God's council and
lives their lives accordingly. They are not driven to get involved with illegal
schemes.
d)
A person is blessed if
they trust in God and not say, some scheme to steal from others.
24.
Verse
21: The wise in heart are called
discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.
a)
If
one is living a life where they are trying to be pleasing to God in all that
they do? Such a person will be called
discerning. It simply means such a person is
willing to listen to God's advice as opposed to the world's advice in any given
situation.
b)
Well
spoken words encourage others to also accent in ways that are pleasing to God. The idea of well-spoken words is that they are said in a way that
encourages others and said at the right time. One of the most common fears in life is not knowing what to say or when
to say it. I'm not claiming to be perfect
in this situation.
c)
The
first step in giving advice is find out whether or not the other person wants
to hear your advise or opinion. Next, turn it over to God and
ask Him to help you with the right words in any given situation.
25.
Verse
22: Understanding
is a fountain of life to those who have it, but folly brings punishment to
fools.
a)
Now we're back to a
"good guy versus bad guy" type of proverb.
b)
The good person has good
understanding of a situation. The idea is such a person is interested in pleasing
God and tries to live their lives accordingly.
c)
The foolish person gets
a lot of punishment in life essentially for turning from God in all that they
do! The foolish person
may not even realize they are being punished. The point is inevitably they will suffer for turning
from God all of their lives.
d)
Yes, everybody sins and
no one is perfect. That
is a different point from this proverb. This proverb is separating those who are interested in
pleasing God with their lives from those who are not.
26.
Verse 23:
A wise man's heart guides his mouth, and
his lips promote instruction.
a)
A wise person is careful
about what he or she says. They are interested in pleasing God in all that they
(or we) do and we let that biblical knowledge guide what we say.
b)
It does not mean we
should be quiet all the time. In fact the second half of this proverb says in effect
"good lips" promotes instructions. That means when we say wise things, it usually has a
positive affect upon those who are listening. The words of the wise promote the good things taught
by God to us!
27.
Verse
24: Pleasant
words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
a)
When
we do say the right words, it is sweet to the soul of those listening and
especially to the one saying the words in the first place. It often has a healing affect as well.
b)
The
idea is on those occasions when we say the right thing, it is beneficial to
both ourselves and those willing to listen.
28.
Verse
25: There
is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.
a)
This verse is stating
the opposite of the previous proverb. The idea is one can say or do things that seem right,
but it can lead to death. The
idea is one can say or think things that are not biblically based.
Those ways may "seem right",
but if they are not God based they lead to death.
b)
The trick is to learn
the difference between that which is acceptable and not acceptable to God.
When in doubt, ask Him!
The other related idea is to seek godly
council when one is not sure whether one's planes are biblical based.
i)
If one has done all of
that and are not sure, sometimes, one can simple follow through and watch the
results.
ii)
Again, God is not
against us earning a living. The condemnation is against us doing illegal or
immoral things in order to get ahead in life!
29.
Verse 26:
The laborer's appetite works for him; his
hunger drives him on.
a)
Let's face it, one who
needs to work to stay alive, will be driven by that need.
This proverb is not condemning either
labor or hunger. It
is just stating the fact that a person will be driven by their need to survive
to look for work.
b)
What about the person
who has inherited wealth and doesn't have to work as hard?
There is nothing wrong with receiving an
inheritance. The
question is what does one do with that inheritance and is one still living out
a life pleasing to God.
30.
Verse
27: A
scoundrel plots evil, and his speech is like a scorching fire.
a)
The
next four proverbs, including this one all deal with "bad" people in
life. They all involve behavior to avoid.
b)
The
first says in effect a wicked person spends a lot of time plotting to do evil. We can recognize such a person by their speech. They speak in ways that are displeasing to God.
c)
The
idea is not about the good person that occasionally plans the wrong thing, but
about those who don't think twice about doing something "scandalous".
31.
Verse
28: A
perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends.
a)
Let's say a new person enters our group of friends,
and that person is constantly stirring up debate and dissention. There is a time and a place for debate. This proverb is warning against those who stir up debate when it is not
necessary.
b)
The
second half is similar. It is saying the act of gossip
can separate the best of friendships. The idea is
gossip is to be avoided. When someone has done something
wrong, the correct response is to go to the source, not to spread the rumors to
others.
c)
A
good idea is to ask God for discernment when a new friend comes in the picture.
32.
Verse
29: A
violent man entices his neighbor and leads him down a path that is not good.
a)
A person who is violent
by nature wants others to join him or her, if for no other reason than to
justify their behavior. The
point is if we are that neighbor, we are to watch for this type of person and
don't follow them in their violent path.
b)
If there is
"violence" to be dealt with, then one gets the authorities involved
and does it property. This
proverb is warning against the kind of person that just likes to stir up
trouble when it is not necessary.
33.
Verse
30: He
who winks with his eye is plotting perversity; he who purses his lips is bent
on evil.
a)
Here is another
"pair" about evil behavior. The first half warns about the type of person who
gives secret signals with his or her eyes in order to signal their partner in
crime to commit a specific bad act.
b)
The second half is
similar. The
focus in the second half is on the lips. It refers to a type of person who speaks evil about
another in order to commit some sort of bad act. In other words, they speak evil for the purpose of
doing something evil.
c)
The purpose of these
last four proverbs is to teach us what type of behavior to avoid and what type
of people to avoid in life.
34.
Verse 31:
Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is
attained by a righteous life.
a)
Most men if they live
long enough will get grey hair. The act in itself is a normal function of a man
getting up there in years. The point of this proverb is that "bad
people" tend to die young because of the life they live.
A person who lives a life pleasing to God
generally lives a longer and healthier life. They get to see their grandchild as they get older and
enjoy the later years of their life.
35.
Verse 32:
Better a patient man than a warrior, a
man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.
a)
In life, there is a time
for war and a time for peace. The point of this proverb is that a patent man who
controls his temper is better than a person who is quick to go to battle.
b)
Sometimes violence is
necessary in war situations, but it should always be a last resort.
This proverb is teaching the importance
of patience. One
should always look for peaceful situations first.
36.
Verse 33:
The lot is cast into the lap, but its
every decision is from the LORD.
a)
This is similar to a
proverb we had earlier that opened this chapter.
b)
Verse 1 said, "To
man belong the plans of the heart, but from the LORD comes the reply of the
tongue." Here
in Verse 33 it reads, "The lot is cast into the lap, but its every
decision is from the LORD". In both cases, it is saying God controls or overrules
the decisions we make in life, ultimately for His own glory.
c)
Verse 1 is about making
our own plans. Verse
33 is about when we make plans as a group. Both proverbs end with the point that somehow, God
"intervenes" in our plans in life. This means God allows bad things and good things to
occur for His own glory. The point is to be aware of the fact God can overrule
our decisions at any time.
d)
This chapter dealt with
dealings with kings and with bad people. It begins and ends with the reminder that God is
ultimately in charge and in control whether we admit it or not.
37.
Chapter 17, Verse 1:
Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with
strife.
a)
This
proverb has nothing to do with one's daily diet. The point is it is better to eat a simple
meal in peace than to share a big meal with a bunch of fighting going on.
b)
Most of us have
experienced both of these in our lifetimes. Sometimes big meals with arguing cannot be avoided.
The point of the proverb is the simple
meal without the arguing is preferable to the big meal with lots of arguing.
38.
Verse
2: A
wise servant will rule over a disgraceful son, and will share the inheritance
as one of the brothers.
a)
It is rare in any
culture for a servant to have equal or greater status than a son.
The more common situation is a good
servant will be treated better than an unfaithful son.
In rare cases a good servant may even get
some sort of inheritance benefit over the bad children.
39.
Verse
3: The
crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but the LORD tests the heart.
a)
The
point of this proverb is that silver and gold are refined via human methods,
but the human heart is not refined at all. God tests
our hearts by seeing how we act in specific situations. Since our heart cannot be separated and refined, the only thing that can
be done is "test it".
b)
God
watches how we react in certain situations to see if we are, or are not
trusting in Him for the outcome. Growth in
God is based on how much we trust Him in any situation.
40.
Verse
4: A
wicked man listens to evil lips; a liar pays attention to a malicious tongue.
a)
Here's another proverb
where both haves speak of a bad person or just bad behavior.
b)
Both halves are saying a
person who is displeasing to God listens to the lips of other evil people.
A sign that one is displeasing to God is
that one is paying attention to another person who is also displeasing to God.
c)
In other words, one way
God judges us is by the company we keep.
d)
So is this proverb for
the saved or unsaved. It
can be either. If
one wants to please God and one finds themselves listening to advise from a
wicked person, it is a sign that one is going down the wrong path.
41.
Verse 5:
He who mocks the poor shows contempt for
their Maker; whoever gloats over disaster will not go unpunished.
a)
Verse 5 gives two
examples of behavior that will be punished by God.
i)
The first is showing
contempt for the poor. We
may not have the financial resources to fix every wrong in the world, but we
should be involved in doing something. The first example is about mocking a poor person for
being poor! At
the least, we should not be picking on someone for being in that situation.
ii)
The second is one who
gloats over the disaster of others. Whether or not we caused the disaster is irrelevant to
this proverb. The
point is God does not want us to gloat over the misfortunes of others.
b)
For both halves, the
underlying point is we should care about the welfare of our fellow human
beings. Even
if we can't fix the situations, we should not be gloating over their
misfortunes and suffering.
42.
Verse 6:
Children's children are a crown to the
aged, and parents are the pride of their children.
a)
One of the advantages of
living a full life is one gets to see their grandchildren grow up.
For a grandparent, their children are
already grown up, so their focus is often now on raising up their
grandchildren.
b)
When
children are young, their source of pride is their parents. Almost all parents want their children to turn out well in life. Children may love their grandparents, but they primarily look to their
parents as a source of affection.
c)
The
point of this proverb is that while grandparents and parents may both be proud
of the kids, the kids primarily look to their parents as their main source for
raising them.
d)
Obviously
this proverb is a generalization. It does not
apply to bad parents who turn away from raising their children.
43.
Verse
7: Arrogant lips are
unsuited to a fool-- how much worse lying lips to a ruler!
a)
Here is a comparison of
two bad things. The
first half says when a fool has arrogant lips it is bad, but a ruler with lying
lips is worse as the ruler can do more damage.
b)
A foolish person that
speaks bad things is bad. It
is "worse" when a ruler has lying lips as the rule is in charge.
This verse is not saying either one is
acceptable only that a bad rule can do more damage to society than am
"every day" fool.
44.
Verse
8: A
bribe is a charm to the one who gives it; wherever he turns, he succeeds.
a)
This verse is not about
doing things illegal. The
idea is the person who gives gifts is likely to success in life as they
understand the value of a nice gift. Notice the emphasis is on the giver of the gift, not
the receiver. The
idea is the person that knows how to give nice gifts in life succeeds.
b)
The point is not that
gifts are necessary for success in life, but that the person who knows how to
give nice gives to others is on a road to success.
Notice that the money value is not
mentioned. A
gift can be something that cost you a little bit of time, but not money as
well. I'm trying to get you
to expand a little one's mention image of a gift.
45.
Verse 9:
He who covers over an offense promotes
love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
a)
A loving act is to
forgive a wrong doing. To
repeat the incident to others can separate the best of friends for a time
being.
b)
I'm afraid that the idea
of forgiving those around us tends to be a rare act in our society.
It's always amazes me how we want God to
forgive us of our wrong doings, but we are much slower to forgive those around
us of much smaller offensives.
c)
The crime in the second
half is made worse because instead of being quiet about an incident, we spread
that story to other people. It doesn't matter if the incident is true or false, we
have no business spreading it to others.
46.
Verse 10:
A rebuke impresses a man of discernment
more than a hundred lashes a fool.
a)
If a person has good
knowledge of right and wrong, and one gives that good person a rebuke, that
does more good than applying hundred lashes to a fool.
b)
There are some people
who simply refuse to be told they are wrong about something.
You can apply one hundred lashes to their
back and it won't change them. There are other people willing to listen to correction
and that makes a difference.
c)
The key is to go through
life and be willing to listen to other opinions about a situation.
d)
It is preferable to be
taught right from wrong via a rebuke than lashes to our body.
47.
Verse 11:
An evil man is bent only on rebellion; a
merciless official will be sent against him.
a)
All
of us say or do the wrong thing at times. That is
different from a person who spends a lifetime turning against God. Almost everybody thinks their opinion is right. The point is the evil man constantly lives for rebellion against God and
his or her fellow human.
i)
Sometimes
such a person gets to a point where the only thing one can do is lock up that
person for the sake of society. Such a society has to send a
merciless official to arrest him or her and put them away. There are situations were one has to do what is best for society as
opposed to having mercy for the one person.
48.
Verse
12: Better
to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than a fool in his folly.
a)
Meeting a mama bear in
the forest that just lost her cubs is a bad thing.
The point is that is still less painful
than dealing with a foolish person in the midst of their wrong doings.
b)
We've already had lots
of proverbs so far in this book dealing with fools.
The general idea is a person who doesn't
care at all about pleasing God. Therefore, such a person is going to engage in
activities displeasing to God.
c)
As humans we are far
more likely to encounter a fool than a bear. We are more likely to see foolish behavior by humans
than see a bear robbed of its cubs.
49.
Verse 13:
If a man pays back evil for good, evil
will never leave his house.
a)
Supposed someone does
something real good for you or me. We pay them back with some sort of insult.
This proverb says evil will never leave
the house.
b)
The point is God is
watching our behavior. When
we do evil to others, God "pays it back to us".
I usually find God's "pay back"
is equal to the crime committed.
c)
Remember we're not
talking about accidentally saying the wrong thing.
This is about a person who deliberately
goes out of their way to do something bad to a person who just did something
good for them. Why
would a person pay back good with evil? The point is the bad person in this story must have
such hatred for the good person that they don't even care about the good deed.
This proverb is saying that if that is
the way the person is in life, they will be stuck forever with bad behavior.
50.
Verse 14:
Starting a quarrel is like breaching a
dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.
a)
I've yet to see one
quarrel in life really make a difference. There is a big difference between a healthy discussion
over a difficult issue and a quarrel where both sides are claiming the other is
wrong.
b)
It is better to drop a
matter or separate for a while than plain old quarreling.
This is common among couples who have
been married a long time. They
are so busy looking at the things they hate about their spouse, they aren't
looking at their own short comings!
c)
The proverb is teaching
that it is better to drop the matter than trying to argue it out!
51.
Verse 15:
Acquitting the guilty and condemning the
innocent-- the LORD detests them both.
a)
God wants justice in
this world. That
means as much as possible to not the guilty go free and not condemning the
innocent. Sometimes
we as a society make mistakes due to bad information.
The point is as much as possible, both of
these are to be avoided.
52.
Verse
16: Of
what use is money in the hand of a fool, since he has no desire to get wisdom?
a)
The issue is not money
itself, but the fact that a foolish person has no desire to better themselves.
The verse is not condemning a foolish
person earning a living. The
verse is saying such a person never uses the resources given to them to better
themselves.
b)
Such a person has no
interest in drawing closer to God and thus, they are wasting the resources
given to them.
53.
Verse 17:
A friend loves at all times, and a
brother is born for adversity.
a)
Both a good friend and a
good family member stick by us when difficult times come.
b)
All people in life go
through difficult periods at times. In such times it is important to be a good friend or a
good family member. That
is what this proverb is teaching.
54.
Verse 18:
A man lacking in judgment strikes hands
in pledge and puts up security for his neighbor.
a)
Here is a proverb we
have discussed in the early chapters of this book.
Proverbs generally condemns the idea of
being a guarantor of say a loan to someone else. It is one thing to help out one's one children.
It is another to say, strike up a
business arrangement with a neighbor.
b)
Understand that this was
a common practice in middle east culture. If someone wanted to borrow money and couldn't afford
it, they looked for another person to cosign the deal.
In the real estate world day, a cosigner
is nicknamed, "a schmuck with a pen". The point is to be careful about who we partnership
with.
55.
Verse 19:
He who loves a quarrel loves sin; he who
builds a high gate invites destruction.
a)
Some people love to
argue for the sake of arguing. This proverb is saying such a person "loves to
sin" whether they realize it or not.
b)
The second half of this
proverb is saying something similar about the same person:
The idea of "building a high
gate" is that it is an invitation for a burglar.
This verse is not condemning protecting
what we own. It
is condemning building an exceptionally high wall just to keep out burglars.
It doesn't work.
i)
The underlying point is
that a person who looks to exalt their own gate is looking for trouble.
56.
Verse 20: A man of
perverse heart does not prosper; he whose tongue is deceitful falls into
trouble.
a)
Let's
define "proper" as it is used in this context: This is not about financial success. Many a
wicked person has money. The idea of prospering as it is
used here is about achieving the things God is proud of. This includes having a heart for God. It also
includes living a life where one lives for things other than oneself. This can include providing for one's family, but the picture is bigger
than that. It is about having a caring
heart where one regularly and consistently makes efforts to help others.
b)
The
second part of the proverb continues along the same line of thinking. The first part of the proverb condemns the person who's heart is wicked. The second part condemns those with a wicked tongue. Usually they go together, which is the point.
c)
The
idea of a deceitful tongue is one who says one thing, but is really planning
something else. The idea is you cannot trust
what they say.
57.
Verse
21: To
have a fool for a son brings grief; there is no joy for the father of a fool.
a)
If one's son is a fool,
it brings grief to the father who raised him. Remember the biblical definition of a fool:
It is one who doesn't care about God at
all in his life.
b)
In most cases, children
who come from religious homes, end up being strongly religious themselves.
There are exceptions.
Sometimes kids from good homes go astray
and sometimes kids from nonreligious homes end up in close relationships with
God.
c)
The underlying point of
this proverb is that it may or may not be the fault of the parent that the
child went astray from God. The point is the child went astray and often, there is
nothing the parents can do about it.
58.
Verse
22: A
cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
a)
If
one is happy on the inside, it can cheer up whatever is happening in the world
around us and also be helpful to those around us. Just the opposite can happen if we're all depressed on the inside.
b)
As
I've stated several times in the lessons, we cannot always control our
circumstances, but we can always control our attitude and remember that God is
always aware of our situation and always with us.
59.
Verse
23: A
wicked man accepts a bribe in secret to pervert the course of justice.
a)
This
is about a person who accepts a bribe in order to influence the outcome of a
court case. The point is justice does not
get done due to this bribe. Notice that it takes two people
to commit this act: One bad person to give the bribe
and another to accept it.
60.
Verse
24: A
discerning man keeps wisdom in view, but a fool's eyes wander to the ends of
the earth.
a)
A discerning man or
women cares what God thinks about any situation. A fool's eyes
wander to the end of the world. In other words,
the fool cares about him or herself and only "things of this world"
and never God.
61.
Verse
25: A
foolish son brings grief to his father and bitterness to the one who bore him.
a)
This verse is very
similar to Verse 21. The
main difference is that this verse also adds the mother to the picture.
The foolish son is a grief to both
parents.
b)
So why repeat this point
so soon? In
between is a point of how a wicked man accepts a bribe and a fool's eyes wander
away from God. If
a parent wonders whether or not their son fits this description is simply a
matter of reading some of the surrounding text.
62.
Verse
26: It
is not good to punish an innocent man, or to flog officials for their
integrity.
a)
Back in Verse 23, the
subject was injustice in the court system due to a bribe.
b)
In this proverb, we have
something similar: The
topic is still the court system. The warning is against punishing those that are found
to be innocent. The
second half is similar, it is about making good people paying for the crimes of
others.
c)
The term "official"
refers to someone in charge. The idea is again about blaming the innocent for a
crime as opposed to the guilty party.
63.
Verse 27:
A man of knowledge uses words with
restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.
a)
A smart person thinks
carefully about what he or she says before they speak and don't just blurt out
every thought that popes in their head. Along a similar line is that a man of good
understanding does not lose their temper very easily.
b)
In both cases, one is
careful what they say in order not to offend people.
64.
Verse 28:
Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps
silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.
a)
This proverb can be
combined with Verse 27. The
point is a foolish person can be perceived as wise if they keep silent and
"hold their tongues".
b)
One of the most common
mistakes people make is to over-react to any situation without hearing all the
facts first. That
is the danger behind these last two proverbs.
65.
OK, let me try to recap
some key points of the last two chapters:
a)
Chapter 16 opened with a
lot of proverbs that deal with our relationship with God.
The idea is to be conscious of the fact
God is in charge of our lives!
b)
The second half of the
chapter had a bunch of proverbs on the importance of taking life seriously.
This included having a good temperament
and being aware that God is judging us and getting involved in our lives.
This theme continued to chapter 17.
c)
There were also warnings
against spreading gossip! Other's
warned against splitting friendships over arguments.
The main idea is self-control is better
than physical control.
d)
We've also had a number
of proverbs dealing with ungodly children. The point is sometimes children go the wrong way
despite good upbringing and sometimes good kids come from broken homes.
It is still worth the trouble to raise
kids with a fear of God. In
most cases, the kids do come back to God when they grow up!
e)
The last part of Chapter
17 dealt a lot with leadership. Not just at the top, but say at court level.
The point is God wants only the guilty
punished. Similar
proverbs warned against officials taking bribes in court situations.
f)
The last few proverbs
talk about the fact that the smart way to act in life is to say
"little" as opposed to blurting out every thought in one's head!
66.
Let's pray: Father, Help us in our dealings with others to be aware of your presents. Help us to remember you are always watching us and always judging our
behavior. Even as Christians, help us to
remember that our rewards in heaven are based on our behavior here on earth! Guide our lives as we live for You and not ourselves. We ask this in Jesus name, Amen.